How To Spice Up Your Conversations

Anthony Taylor
2 min readJul 21, 2021
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So the world is opening back up. While many of us are excited about that, record levels of anxiety are still to drop to pre-pandemic levels.

People are feeling anxious about a whole range of things from job changes and company re-structures to rising infection rates and financial concerns.

The other thing causing anxiety is the thought of having to mix again and actually talk to people, especially strangers.

This cause of social anxiety can make life pretty miserable for some.

Thankfully, using character strengths (there are 24 to choose from) can help.

Compare these two brief exchanges:

“Hey, how are you?”

“Fine. How was your day?”

“Fine.”

Boring questions get boring answers! Don’t be boring!

Try using character strengths to spice it up a bit.

“Hey, what have you been most grateful for today?”

“Oh, that would be my large coffee and muffin this morning before my 2hr meeting!”

“Did anything funny happen in the meeting?”

“Yes, Mike was trying to feed his 2yr old son while delivering the sales projections who was trying to help. It was hilarious.”

“I bet that was funny. Did anyone do anything kind for you today?”

“Yeah, actually, this nice teenager held the door for me when I left the coffee shop on the way in this morning.”

“That’s cool, hearing that makes me hopeful for the future. Teenagers seem to get blamed for lots of things.”

“Yes, I was really grateful and told him.”

Using character strengths in conversations can be a great way to spice things up. You’ll find yourself learning so much more and maybe even getting a reputation as being a great conversationalist.

The other thing it does is take the focus of the anxiety of worrying about what to say. You’ve always got 24 things to prompt you.

Curious to learn more about character strengths? Go to viacharacter.org and find out what you strengths are.

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Anthony Taylor

Dad to four, sharing my learning on career, management and personal development to help others. anthony@threefifty9.com